peace&love

cheeseanonioncrisps

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Men are using a powerful hashtag to fight back against emotional abuse

According to NCADV, 4 in 10 people have experienced some kind of coercive control from an intimate partner. Sadly, #MaybeSheDoesntHitYou is raising much-needed awareness for a widespread problem.

glisteningsoftly

This is disgusting. It really is. I hope that people gain awareness of this issue and their own situation and I really hope that we all find better.

definingthedarkness

I appreciate the hell out of the women reblogging this. As a survivor of such emotional abuse, I know it’s vital for men to step forward and talk about their experiences. The old “man up” narrative needs to die.

Source: firebastard

angelofmusic36

Coming into a fandom late

mishstiel

baxtersaurus

Coming into a fandom early and watching it become an angry clusterfuck

valerieparker

Being in a dormant fandom that suddenly comes alive again after a new book/movie

221books

Don’t forget about those who come in the midst of a fandom war.

dj-killer

Accuracy at its best

street-of-mercy

Being in a fandom and not even knowing there’s a war going on…

my-reylo

all of this shit…lol

nerdsagainstfandomracism

When You’re Not In The Fandom But You’re Nosy AF

not-so-secret-nerd

When you get into a fandom only to discover it’s dead

jupiter235

This gets better every time I see it.

sageblackrose95

@fuboos-mess

inverted-mind-inc

Being in a dead fandom…

illogicalvoid

Or being in such a tiny fandom that it feels like youre the only one

eriplier

The accuracy hurts.

fanfic-yes-please

Being in a fandom that had a shit ending.

it-is-bugs

When you’ve been fangirling long enough, you’ve experienced all of the above.

abh95

Being in a fandom meant for kids.

teaganvamp

This just gets better..

hamboj2

@mi-kleos

thatcrazysonicchick

When you realize that joining the fandom has ruined you

knightofbloodcancer

Fandom hell in general

markisexbang

Yes.

marvelanimelover

This^^^ just… ALL OF THIS.

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Being in so many fandoms that you don’t even know what’s going on

skuldvggerypleasant

THIS IS THE SKULDUGGERY FUCKING PLEASANT FANDOM IN ONE POST!!

crochanblackbeak

Trying to recruit people to your fandom

kateriverameliawolfe

Annnnnnndddd it’s back

ishipwhatiship247

Being in a fandom which has so many antis

ravenhilarious

I’ve probably reblogged this before, but that was before these great additions.

swanqueen-in-gotham

Being in a fandom that actually works together

aliciaclockgriffin

Why is this so true? All of it.

pillowprincesslexa

being in a fanbase but all your mutuals suddenly turn into Kpop blogs

hangingfire

I always enjoy it when a good post comes around again and has been improved by the reblogs like the years for a fine wine.

feyreacher0n

Being in a fandom when shit goes down and everyone has different opinions

marianagmt

When you are in a fandom and don’t care for others people opinion…..even if they are right…(believe me, I have met several of those)

spacewalkerkru

Being in a fandom you never meant to join

tirnelstargazer

I love this. and it’s gotten better

sleepygrimm

Coming into a Fandom and having just read my First Smut!

daswhoiam

Oh it got better. Never not reblog.

lightofevolution

Being so deep into a fandom you don’t know what’s canon anymore.

And yes, @sleepygrimm @daswhoiam, it got better 😂

alegotic-fandoms

HAHAHAHAHA THIS IS FUCKING GREAT

moon-and-the-heroes

This evolved!

purplechaosguardian

Basically:

cheeseanonioncrisps

imjustlo

I think we need to normalize the idea of marrying friends. I don’t mean in a “the best romantic relationships come from the best friendships” type way, though I do believe that’s true. I mean in a “I have zero romantic feelings for you, but I would totally spend the rest of my life committed to a future where you are my primary partner and maybe even raise a family together” type way.

Like, I don’t think it should be an aromantic-exclusive option, or a plan B when you and your best friend are still single at 40 and want to take yourselves out of the dating market.

I’ve heard it mostly as that backup plan, that “if I don’t find anyone, I’ll just marry Trish haha”, and I don’t think that’s even what I’m talking about normalizing. That’s a secondary outcome, seen as “giving up” on finding “real love”, and even if a pair of friends go for it, it’s plagued with this general feeling of “sub par”.

What I mean is that marrying a best friend (or having a committed intimate or emotional platonic relationship) should be seen as just as worth doing as marrying someone you’re in love with. It should be normal for teenagers to try as many committed friendships as they do romantic relationships. It should be normal for someone to say “this is my best friend and if everything works out, maybe we’ll move in together later” or “Trish and I have been roommates for two years now. We’re considering adopting soon, or Trish might carry a child!”

And as an aromantic person, it shouldn’t be strange for me to say “I prefer friendship to romance”. People should hear that and nod their heads like “that’s understandable. John feels the same.”

Hell, I see so many people expressing that they prefer their friends’ company to their romantic partner’s. “My friends understand me better and I think treat me better” and they’re expected to go home to this person, to marry and have kids with this person. It’s bizarre to me. Your platonic feelings for your friend aren’t inferior to your romantic feelings for your boyfriend, and if one of them treats you better than the other, I think you should probably rethink which one is your primary partner.

I also find it strange that it’s not more common in poly spaces for a friend to be considered a legitimate “partner”. In a world where friendships were just as likely to bloom into life partnerships as romantic relationships, I think polyamory would be much more commonplace. “I committed to Josephine about a year ago and now we own a home, but I fell in love with Joe about six months ago and we’re all trying to make it work.” Josephine shouldn’t have to worry about her partner leaving her for Joe just because their bond is romantic and therefore the “sensible” relationship to choose over the other.

I’m just ranting at this point, but I reiterate: committed friendships should not be seen as strange and “sad”, but as a legitimate option for a lifetime commitment. Not just for aromantics like myself, but for everyone. It should just be normal.

And not to be presumptuous, but I don’t think I’m alone in this thinking

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hexmaniacmareen

what they say: cats are evil and unable to love

what they mean: i dont know how to handle small animals and consider them lashing out in SELF DEFENSE an insult

rad-roach

Usually what it boils down to is “I’m mad because the cat didn’t act like a dog”.

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lil-mizz-jay

Pushing fragile things off tables and breaking them: Self defense.

Destroying Christmas Trees: Self defense, I mean the tree attacked them.

Scratching their owner’s eyeball: Self defense.

Scratching their sleeping owner’s face: Self defense.

Jumping on their owner’s back and clawing into their spine: Self defense.

Admittedly yeah

A dog doesn’t do those things because a dog’s version of self defense is to be a good animal who loves you and doesn’t attack you unless you attack them first.

I mean if a cat feels that threatened by everything in their owner’s household maybe the owner shouldn’t have gotten a cat.

amphiaria

Pushing fragile things off tables and breaking them: Playing. Cats are well-known to like to play with small objects. Your cat does not know what “fragile” means and does not understand the distinction between toy and not-toy objects. Place fragile things out of a cat’s line of sight and reach, and if you don’t provide them with enough enrichment items that they go looking for them, that’s on you.

Destroying Christmas Trees: Cats like to climb things. They’re not doing it to spite you.

Scratching their owner’s eyeball: Probably an accident, due to overstimulation when playing. It wasn’t trying to hurt you. Don’t anthropomorphize animals by attributing spite to them. Animals don’t do spite the way that humans do.

Scratching their sleeping owner’s face: Trying to rouse you with its paw, probably gently, because it loves you and wants to play with you.

Jumping on their owner’s back and clawing into their spine: Come on. If a cat is jumping on you, it loves you and wants to be close to you. Digging in with its claws is how it balances itself on an unstable surface and is purely a reflexive reaction. It isn’t intending to hurt you.

99% of cat behavioral problems stem from bored cats. Cats need to climb, need to scratch, and need small objects to play with. I only recommend adopting cats in pairs, so that they can keep each other entertained. Cats are not purely solitary. They get lonely, and lonely cats act out. Once again, your entire problem with cats as a species seems to stem from the fact that you don’t understand how cats express affection and it upsets you that they don’t do so the way that dogs do. Cats aren’t small dogs and cannot be expected to behave as such.

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silverblueroses:
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“ Playboy’s catcall flowchart.
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I’m reblogging Playboy. Somebody stop me.
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Even Playboy wants men to stop screaming at women on the street. When the pinnacle of female...

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normanbates

my entire life changed when my dentist told me that the only time my teeth should be touching is when i’m chewing. every single time my teeth are touching i have to separate them. and i noticed that i clench my teeth a LOT.

normanbates

when your mouth is closed and your teeth are touching or held tightly together, you are unnecessarily straining muscles out of stress. the healthiest way to hold your jaw is slightly apart, where it is relaxed. THIS HELPS WITH HEADACHES

tribyen

I unclenched my jaw upon reading this.

luidilovins

WHAT???

sentimental-apathy

Dude

me: I'm gonna write something
also me: ok but what if you don't write it perfectly
me: shit you're right I better not write it at all

factly

Source: guarded

humorstar

hagrids-hut

stephenhawqueen

a harry potter au where potions is taught by gordon ramsay

malfoycat

neville: *messes up his potion*

gordon ramsay: *holds neville between two slices of bread* what are you

neville: an idiot sandwich

iamthepureblindraven

no no no!

Imagine that this is Gordon Ramsay a la Masterchef Junior

Neville: *messes up the potion, realizes it, starts crying quietly*

GR: What’s going on?

Neville: *explains how he messed up*

GR: Oh gosh okay…we can fix this, don’t cry, see, it’s fine now? Just be more careful when you’re adding the Newt’s eyes, all right? Drop them in gently. There we go. No more tears.

Neville: *giggles wetly, wiping eyes*

mira-of-sassgard

Yes, he only screams when he’s dealing with people that claim to know what they’re doing and clearly dont, when he’s teaching he’s very kind and patient because they’re still learning.

wickedbitchofthewestcoast

He’d probably do the bread thing to Malfoy.

therewerenorelevanturlsavailable

nononononono. I get that Malfoy is a bit of a twat, but he’s still a kid. It’d be the teachers fucking up that he’d have trouble with.

Ramsay: All you had to do was treat it with a fucking Beozar!

Slughorn: It was a stressfu-

Ramsay: How long have you been teaching potions?!

Ramsay: So you’re going to raise this boy SPECIFICALLY so he can die as part of your twisted little scheme?

Dumbledore: It’s for the greater good, professor.

Ramsay: The greater fucking good?! *holds two slices of bread either side of dumbledoor’s face* What are you?

Dumbledore: Am I, per chance, an idiot sandwich?

Ramsay: Yes, you fucking are.

marauders4evr

Okay, now I can reblog it!

theiguanaamarillaart

@marauders4evr

marauders4evr

Fantastic!

thebookishgurl

@alrightanakin

alrightanakin

I’m in love

bellesbloggg

I MUST HAVE REBLOGGED A THOUSAND TIMESSSS

cameoamalthea

My favorite Gordon Ramsey moment is from the latest season of Master Chef Jr.

Gordon had run in to help a group of struggling kids with a team challenge and one of the older kids, a 12 year old boy, wasn’t passing attention while taking a pan out of the oven and not only spilled all the food but scalded Gordon.

It’s clear Gordon’s leg is in pain. He’s been badly burned without warning. But he doesn’t scream. He doesn’t yell, not even in pain, and he doesn’t go off on the child who is now frozen in fear. He calmly tells the child to set the pan down and to close the oven, safety first. Then tells him to go restart the food he was making, calm instructions.

My husband and I grew up in abusive homes where any mistake meant parents getting angry (my husband is terrified of spills or broken glasses because that meant beatings growing up, for me, anything going wrong, that could upset my mother, even if it wasn’t my fault meant screaming and emotional abuse).

I didn’t know someone could be so calm. That someone could not get angry, and put aside what they’re feeling (in this case a lot of physical pain) and not take it out on those around them, even when someone around them had messed up, because that person is a child.

Gordon Ramsey is a survivor of child abuse himself and as an adult, the most non-abusive person ever when it comes to kids.

owleensnest

im going to cry can gordon ramsey be my parent this sound so beautiful

ohmytheon

Please take a moment to picture Gordon Ramsay taking over Potions when Snape becomes the DADA professor (instead of Slughorn) and not only being horrified when he realizes how terrified the students are that he’ll verbally abuse them when they mess up in Potions class but when he overhears how Snape treats students. Like can you IMAGINE the level of RAGE and CONTEMPT that Ramsay would harbor towards Snape? The asshat wouldn’t have made it to the end of HBP. Ramsay would’ve hexed his ass to kingdom come.

berkcastteam

Rebloging ALL of this because Chef Ramsay is THE MAN!

-HC

xtaticpearl

Chef Ramsay would have become the kids’ favourite teacher and you can’t take that away from me.

peace&love

See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Men are using a powerful hashtag to fight back against emotional abuse

Coming into a fandom late